Free Attachment Style Quiz

What Are Attachment Styles?

Attachment styles are the unconscious patterns you learned early in life about love, safety, and connection. They’re not just “personality traits”, they live in your nervous system. When a text takes too long to come through, when conflict gets heavy, or when someone gets too close, it’s your attachment system that decides how you react.

These patterns begin in childhood, shaped by the way your caregivers responded (or didn’t respond) to your needs. And they don’t just disappear when you grow up. They show up in your relationships, your dating life, even in the way you talk to yourself.

The good news? Attachment styles are not fixed. Once you understand your style, you can start to rewire the old stories and build something more secure. That’s why this quiz matters, it’s not about slapping on a label, it’s about finding the root of the loop you’re stuck in so you can finally break it.

The Four Attachment Styles

Anxious Attachment Style 🧡

Love feels urgent, almost life-or-death. You crave closeness, replay every text and fight in your head, and struggle to feel “enough” unless someone is reassuring you. Underneath it all is a fear of abandonment, wired from inconsistent love in childhood.

Avoidant Attachment Style 💙

Independence is your safety net. You might crave love but feel suffocated when it gets too close. Emotional intimacy feels risky, so you pull back, distract yourself, or shut down. Underneath the cool exterior is a younger version of you who learned early that your feelings weren’t safe or welcome.

Disorganized Attachment Style 💛

It’s the push-pull cycle. You want love but don’t fully trust it. You may feel drawn to people and then panic once they’re close. Relationships can feel like an emotional rollercoaster — moments of intensity followed by withdrawal. This style often develops when love and fear were mixed together growing up.

Secure Attachment Style 💚

Comfortable with closeness and independence, you trust easily, communicate openly, and recover from conflict without spiraling. This is what we’re aiming for — and yes, it’s possible to move toward secure attachment no matter where you’re starting.

Why This Quiz Matters

When you know your attachment style, you start to see why certain situations hit you so hard. Why a late reply ruins your whole day. Why you panic when someone wants more from you. Why you can’t stop overthinking, even when you know it’s “irrational.”

Your quiz result gives you:

• Clarity on the patterns running in the background of your relationships.
  
• Language for what you’ve been feeling but couldn’t explain.
  
• Direction for how to shift those patterns instead of staying stuck.
  

Awareness isn’t the end of the journey, but it is the doorway. Once you see the loop clearly, you can finally start to rewire it.